Wednesday, December 30, 2020
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Tuesday, November 10, 2020
Friday, November 6, 2020
Tuesday, October 27, 2020
Once in a while, it's nice just to have a chat.
Have you noticed how folks don't just drop by anymore.
I've had friends say,
"We wouldn't just stop in on somebody without calling."
My friends are always welcome.
If I'm in the middle of peeling spuds,
pull up a chair and dig in :-)
Then, let's chat.
Some of the best conversation happens over snapping beans
or bucking hay, or digging a row.
So pull up a chair or tip the bucket over, whichever suits you.
Have a seat.
I'm so sorry it's been so long since my last post.
It's just been that B word (busy).
Our tomatoes went crazy again this year and supplied
not only for our needs, buy my parents, my in-laws, and one of the guys at work.
Hubby discovered he looooves homemade salsa.
So we've made about 17 gallons! (I think?)
We've also been busy at work and trying to deal with all the challenges
this year has presented to small businesses.
Hubby worked 8 weeks straight and finally took this past Sunday off.
We are still slammed, but I think we are beginning to see the light.
I have been trying to stitch a little in the evenings when I can.
We aren't even to Halloween yet and I am thinking about Christmas.
There is an odd feeling about it this year,
both gratitude and sadness.
I am so grateful my dad is recovering and doing a little better each day.
But my grandmother (his mom) is 96 and probably won't be with us much longer.
I'm not sad for her, but for my own selfishness.
She has lived a good 96 years, and it's only really been the past year
that she's had many issues.
And I am comforted in that as much as I love her,
I know God loves her even more.
I also just received news that the man who is like my second father
is now on hospice.
I'm not sharing this to make you all sad.
The opposite really~
We should be grateful for the time we have with our loved ones.
And so I am looking forward to Christmastime.
We cannot stop the circle of life - nor would I want to
as difficult as it might be at times.
But this year, I might try to make a special effort to make
Christmas even more meaningful.
I just placed an order for a little surprise I am planning to make.
As soon as it arrives, I will share in case you would like to do so also.
As we head into the holidays, especially this year,
I'd just like to encourage everyone to remember kindness,
be appreciative for all of our blessings and loved ones,
and be as generous as your circumstances allow.
I've begun adding Christmas items to my etsy shoppe.
Am certainly enjoying having it open again.
Also, do any of you know what's up with line spacing on the new blogger?
I can't find spacing - oy!
Monday, September 28, 2020
Autumn is upon us~
And it is becoming. . . .
(All those little white spots are ladybugs. They looked like faeries.)
We are still having end of summer weather
rather than the beginning of autumn weather.
It's a little cooler but is supposed to be back in the 80's this week.
I am enjoying the season we are in regardless of what we label it.
I'm still canning like a crazy person
though I've cleaned up the kitchen and put some things away.
We had a horrible wind storm that blew the smoke in
from all the fires.
That was Labor Day weekend.
Everything was coated with dust and ash.
I finally got the summer kitchen cleaned (mostly).
One thing about cleaning and canning,
there is usually little interruption or offerings of help
so it gives one time to ponder.
I like to ponder actually~
you know while doing those little mindless things
like washing dishes or stirring a pot.
Recently, I was thinking not only about my own life and happenings,
but the state of our environment and society
and some things that I've read on other blogs as well.
I came back to something I already knew inside.
If there is something I don't like, change it.
Well that's all fine and dandy except for the things that are out of my control.
Oh yea, that list:
Fires set by angry individuals.
The health and well being of loved ones.
Things I disprove of being forced upon us.
Obviously, this list could go on for a while,
but let's just stop there.
That could end up being a very depressing rabbit hole.
First, and many of you probably already realize this,
but I very much appreciate nature so it hurts me when
our Earth is abused so blatantly.
I much prefer to see a vibrant thriving Earth
with kind people enjoying her bounty.
Make it so.
I went out and took care of some areas of our garden that I'd neglected.
It might not be much, but it is what I have control over.
There are no fires in my garden,
and having happy vegetation growing helps clean the air.
And those angry people don't exist in my garden.
And I think folks catch on or we send out vibes,
because I can't wear a mask.
A month or so ago, I was accused of being okay with killing people.
I still wash my hands and respect other people's space and distancing, etc.
I had to go to the store for a couple of things and stopped by the thrift shop
to see if I could find a couple shirts for Mr. LB.
I wait before entering and make sure it's okay that I go in.
I had more people speak to me than I think ever before.
One lady I kept "running into" introduced herself
and asked my name.
She was entirely kind and bid me fun looking.
(Well, we can't just look at men's shirts can we - heehee.)
Another woman in the craft section said she usually did shows
and was really going to miss them this year.
One person told me of a valuable mosaic bistro set she almost sold too cheap.
There were a few others.
When I went to the grocery store,
I ran into a friend I haven't seen in a couple years.
She asked if I was giving hugs - yep!
(Not to strangers of course, but friends you bet.)
The point is - there was tons of kindness going on.
Made is so.
Changing the health or hurting of loved ones - Oy!
It's so difficult to see, hear, . . . feel.
Wanting them to be well.
Make it so.
I mentioned in my last post that my dad had been in the hospital
having two major surgeries in a 3-4 day span.
He actually ended up going back in for 2 more minor surgeries.
After not going to a doctor for 40 years,
he made up for lost time.
He's now getting better - YAY!
I've been having to step into the parenting of my parents roll a little.
That has been a little tricky.
To any of you who take care of your parents - bless you!
From finances to diet, training one's parents while trying to remain respectful
can be a fine line to walk.
I also have a friend who has been struggling with losses.
Her losses are not mine.
I don't know the same people or have the same feelings,
but I do care that she was hurting.
She lives alone and was feeling alone.
I acknowledged how she felt and told her
it is difficult not to be with those we care about at times
when we feel we should be closer, and
that sometimes folks just need a hug.
She said "You nailed it."
I think just identifying that helped her feel a little better (hope).
Made it so.
And that last one,
all I can say is I'm countering it with love and kindness.
Make it so.
It's easy to be grumpy about others trying to force us
to believe certain things.
My solution to that is just find a diversion.
I've been trying not to share my opinion on much of anything.
That might sound a little silly,
but it seems to me that we've become so accustom
to sharing our opinion without it being sought and
without much consideration of how others
might feel or respond, we've become non-communicative.
Don't get me wrong, I have plenty of opinions.
I've just been trying to keep my big mouth shut.
Sometimes I'm more successful than others - am still so human.
I'm trying to remember that it is much more pleasant
to communicate in a positive manner than to force my opinion on others
or have them force theirs on me.
It works both ways, you see.
It does seem to be working.
Made it so.
So all those things that are out of my control,
well, maybe I just need to look at them sideways.
Seems like I'm making some progress.
I will falter (will just go ahead and ask forgiveness right here and now)
as I know I am so far from perfect.
And only One has control,
but if being grumpy or discouraged or depressed wasn't working,
why not do my itty-bitty part in attempting to right the wrongs.
I might only be one person,
but it's one less grump spreading negative.
Guess I would rather be one person spreading joy.
If your autumn isn't absolutely beautiful,
Make it so.
And whatever joy you seek,
Make it so.
Blessings dear friends~
Thursday, September 10, 2020
There is an old nursery rhyme or song that's come to mind lately.
It's rather short, kinda like Row Your Boat.
Make new friends
but keep the old.
One is silver
and the other's gold.
There are many quotes and sayings
advocating the importance of friends.
And I would venture to say,
not one of them is an exaggeration.
We need friends no matter who we are or what our character.
I view myself as an introvert,
but I've been told by several employers in particular
how easily I speak with clients.
The thing is, I don't have problems talking.
(Just ask any of my grade school teachers:-)
It's the getting to know me bit that's a challenge
so my friends are real treasures to me.
There are those rare occurrences when you will meet someone,
and it's like you've known them all your life.
Those are the easiest and often the closest friendships.
There are also the friends that develop over time.
Those are nice in that there are typically few expectations
about what's ahead.
They can become valuable in that each person knows
the habits and norms of the other person so they know well
just how to help or get along with the other person.
There are some "firey" friendships.
I'm not so sure those are real friendships.
there is a new kind of friendship.
Those found here online.
In a way, it's not really a new kind.
In years past, there were pen-pals that created friendships.
These friendships are a different kind of valuable
because there is no keeping up appearances.
There is no:
"I don't like going to the store with Jane because she wears too much perfume."
"She just walks so slow."
"I'm allergic to her cat."
Those things don't matter one iota if you aren't there with him/her.
(By the way, I actually like the name Jane and cats among other critters.
Too much perfume and slowly meandering through a grocery store
might get to me a little though.)
So what of these friends of different sorts?
What actually makes them important?
Well, you see~
humans are a herding animal.
I know there are some out there who don't take fondly to being called an animal
and others who take it as a compliment.
But we are creatures on this earth, and we were created with instincts.
Hubby and I were talking a while back, and he made the comment
that he wasn't sure why but religious communities have lower crime rates.
The uncertainty was because people who are religious
are just as likely to commit crimes from a statistics standpoint.
I said two words:
He looked at me kinda sideways.
Acceptance is what every person seeks deep down
be it gang members or church members.
You follow the rules of what is acceptable in order to be accepted,
and you don't hurt your own.
If you break those rules, you are kicked out of the heard, gang, church,
That's where those friends come into play.
Our friends accept us.
They still love us even if we snort when we laugh,
even if we spill down the front of our shirt every time,
even if we aren't super stars,
even if . . . well, you get it.
Our friends accept us for who we are.
There has been quite a bit of discord in 2020.
Communities have been shattered.
Families have been separated.
Friendships have been strained.
These things are more important now than ever.
I guess the point of this post is just don't forget.
I know different areas have different mandates in effect,
but there are still things you can do.
Leave a bag of tomatoes hanging on the door knob of a neighbor
then call and let them know it's there.
(If you don't have any to spare, just let me know. I have tons!)
Send a quick note or card to a friend or family member.
By all means hug your kids and grand-kids!
The risk of them feeling abandoned, unloved, or neglected
far outweighs that of a virus.
I worry about the unintended consequences
of some of the things that are happening around us.
There are ways to make new friends also.
There is always someone who could use a friend.
Ask a pastor if there is an elder who can't get out much.
A phone call or dare I say even an old-fashioned letter
can go a long ways in brightening someones day.
Or, a couple other ideas:
a nursing home director - sorta adopt a grandparent
a childcare provider or family member with munchkins
(kids love a phone call to them rather than to Dad or Mom)
Obviously, that one would need parental approval.
Teens! They need reassurance as much as any 2 year old.
The last thing they need is to hibernate in their room for a year.
There might be someone who has a family member in hospice.
They are typically exhausted and could use a nicety.
I really think most of you are pretty kind and creative.
If you have more ideas,
please share in the comments.
So all of this to say,
remember to remember 💝
By the way, I'm one of those folks who loves to do those little
random act of kindness.
They often cost very little, but can be very meaningful.
Okay, I'll stop (see told ya I could talk.)
I just want to encourage folks to be friendly.
Have a beautiful day.